What it means to be a mom — I have a strange tendency to boast about the fact that TV shows and movies rarely make me cry. I don’t know why this is something to be proud of, and the incidence of my eyes getting watery has definitely increased since I became a mom. I went down some…

As I sit down to write this, she is watching me, waiting. She is going to come up to my laptop and swat the lid closed. She’s just waiting for the right moment when I’m not paying attention. Earlier this morning, she waited until I was coming out of the…

No, it is not donating money or sharing memes. — I went against my own advice yesterday. The news about the parents at the Uvalde shooting was more than I could handle. But I started reading about it anyway. And I started reading more about it. And I became really angry. …

Not until we actually do something — Some things are so horrible you can’t wrap your mind around them. Too many of those have been happening lately. How do we even process these things much less do something about them? If you are a rational human you should be very very pissed off right now. But here’s…

Hint: It’s a trick question — When I was a new mom, I was a mess. My mind would never stop, it affected everything. My relationship with others, my work, my family's well-being, and most importantly, but also at the same time somehow most incidentally, my own well-being. I read a lot of Mommy blogs at…

And you can change your situation — I’m sitting in a basement office with no windows. I’m getting yelled at by a high-level child welfare professional. She is furious that some of my staff have two computer monitors which she is saying she never approved. They don’t have two computer monitors and I try to explain that…

We need to stop talking about that other guy and start talking about how Chris Rock handled the situation — After last night, it would not surprise me at all if I found out that Chris Rock had been trained in trauma-informed practices. His reaction to getting assaulted was a lesson in de-escalation. If you rewatch the footage of Will Smith marching onto the stage, and smacking Chris Rock, Rock…

A Tribute To Taylor Hawkins — It’s right there in the lyrics “if anything could ever be this real forever; if anything could ever be this good again”. I sang this song at the top of my lungs for decades. In good times and in bad. But nothing gold can stay. As another poet once said. …

Everything is fine, right? — Remember a few months ago, when we abandoned Afghanistan and pretty much ignored the soldiers and the families of the soldiers that died? Do you remember vaguely hearing about how many of them feel like the two decades of suffering was for nothing? Did you hear about how this news…